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Limiting beliefs have an incredible power over us, yet it’s often difficult to notice them.

When people look at me, they see someone who has their life together and thriving, as if I had won the lottery of life.

But it hasn’t always been this way. I still remember vividly one autumn morning a couple of years back. I had just finished reading yet another personality profile, as so many times before in my search for a better life. But oh boy, this time it hit differently!

I remember my voice inside my head screaming: What the f*** am I doing?!

Everything I thought to be true about my career, life, and future vision suddenly crumbled. It was as if the solid ground beneath my feet had turned into loose sand and started to slip away.

A whole set of limiting beliefs had just shattered. Beliefs that I had lived by and enforced my entire life.

I was questioning everything. How had I gotten this far without ever realizing what was going on? How could I have been so blind all this time?

My limiting beliefs had pulled a hell of a prank on me.

Two Months Earlier

I was struggling at work. I was always late, had difficulties getting the tasks done, and felt miserable all the time. I was barely hanging in there. I tried my best, but I still felt like I was failing.

Life at home wasn’t much better. I was drained, trying to suck it up and to be a responsible adult. After all, that’s what you’re supposed to do, right?

Looking back, I had put in my best effort to build a life as you’re told to as a kid. Go to school, get good grades, study, and then skyrocket your career. Shouldn’t be too hard.

But what if it is? What if despite your best efforts, this just isn’t it? Instead, it’s draining you to the bone until you have no more to give. What do you do then?

At that point in my life, I was losing hope and ready to give up.

I was desperately looking for some string to hold on to, that could help me out of my rut. Which led me to this Human Design profile. Without even properly understanding what it was about, I entered the needed details in the form and waited for the page to load.

Now, I’m not big on human design, but I was truly amazed by how accurate the profile was. And the realizations that followed, changed my life.

Our Beliefs Control Our Lives

The result popped up on my screen – Type: Projector 4/6. Now, that didn’t reveal much, so I read the description of this type. As I did, I became painfully aware of how much my beliefs were affecting my life, the way I saw the world around me, and my actions. Beliefs that I had picked up as a kid, were running my life without me even noticing.

Here are some of these beliefs:

• I’ll never be wealthy, because that was not attainable for me
• The only way to put food on the table, have a roof over our heads, and pay the bills is to work hard
• I should accept my life as it is because there is nothing I can do about it
• The universe is rigged against me
• I’m not enough (for my work, friends, family, school, you name it)

I was raised not to complain and keep my head down. I was told that our place is at the bottom feeders and that was a fact that would never change. The world was rigged against us poor. The best thing we could do was accept our faith and just keep going.

So, there I was working hard, keeping my head down and trying to accept my place in the world. These beliefs had made sure, that I would not even try to change anything. Yet alone, dream of anything better.

But as continued reading, the seed of doubt rooted deeper in my mind, I started to question whether these beliefs were actually true. What if I didn’t accept my faith and did try something different? What if I could attain wealth? And what if it wasn’t the universe that was rigged against me, but my conditioning?

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Are All of Our Beliefs True?

What makes limiting beliefs so powerful, is that it’s difficult to recognize them or the control they have over us. We pick up a lot of them as children, from our parents, family, society, and the events that occur throughout our lives.

They help us to navigate this world and behave in an acceptable way. Which is very useful for the most part. But the problem is, that the world is ever-changing and our environments change with it. Just think about the impact the internet has had on our lives in the past couple of decades.

This leaves some of the beliefs passed on to us outdated. It’s like watching a movie on a black-and-white TV when everyone around us is experiencing it through a virtual reality headset. As we update our devices and embrace the changes, we need to update our operating system as well.

Usually, we only adjust our beliefs when forced. This can happen, for example after a traumatic event, that disrupts our old beliefs and we are forced to update our beliefs. But the thing is, we don’t have to leave it to chance. We can consciously work on our limiting beliefs by reflecting and questioning them. All it takes is a seed of doubt.

So, let’s play with this idea. Below are a couple of sentences. Try to finish them with the first thing that comes to mind.

• Money makes people…

• Making a lot of money is…

• Money is…

Were your first thoughts mainly positive or negative? Take a look back in time, when did you start to believe this? Is it something you picked up from your parents, or society, or was it an experience that formed this belief?

If your sentences seemed to end on a discouraging note, you might be a prisoner of a limiting belief. In this case, ask yourself: Is this really true?

Often, the first reply is yes, so consider whether there’s anything in your life that could prove your claim wrong.

For example, if you’d asked me to finish the first sentence two years ago, I would have said: Money makes people greedy.

This is another belief I picked up as a kid. However, throughout my life, I have seen people donate, financially support others, and give away things to people in need time after time.

So, was my claim true? — No.

Was this limiting me in some way? — Yes.

Unconsciously, I had developed a set of negative beliefs about money, which had led me to not pursue it. I mean sure, I thought I was pursuing it by working hard in my minimum-wage job and keeping the rat wheel turning.

But the reality was, that I didn’t believe that I could start investing or build another stream of income. Yet alone that I could start my own business someday. So I stuck with what I knew, my minimum-wage job.

It was time to update this belief to something more empowering. Something, that wasn’t rooted in the belief that money was bad, but rather in the belief that money is good. For me, the sentence now goes Money makes people capable of supporting others.

How would your sentence end, if it was rooted in a more empowering belief?

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From a Seed of Doubt to New Heights

One by one, I went through my limiting beliefs by following the above steps and replaced them with more empowering ones.

Suddenly, everything started to make sense. Why I had struggled so much with work and life in general. And why I was feeling so miserable, even after doing everything I was supposed to do.

The screaming voice in my head silenced as I realized that I had been living a life designed for someone else and trying to adjust to a set of beliefs that weren’t mine, to begin with.

Reading my human design profile acted as a disruptive force. It opened me up to the possibility, that things could be different. That my truth was not the whole truth but merely a part of the truth.

It allowed me to question my limiting beliefs and planted the seed of doubt. As it rooted deeper into my mind, I was able to let go of the limiting beliefs that were keeping me stuck.

Furthermore, the seed sprouted into new, more empowering beliefs that allowed me to turn my life around and thrive.

I have to admit, it was quite a shock at first as my beliefs started to collapse like a delicate house of cards after a slight breeze of autumn air in the room.

But once I got past the initial shock, I started to feel a sense of relief. It was incredibly liberating to let go of beliefs that didn’t serve me anymore.

I was no longer held down by the weight of the chains, that had been passed onto me. I was no longer blindsided by an invisible force steering my life. I was no longer fooled by the prank my limiting beliefs had pulled on me.

Instead, I was now in the driver’s seat, steering my life in a new direction. Allowing myself to explore all of my options, before judging. Allowing myself to take a shot, without having the negative voice nagging in my ear. And most importantly, allowing myself to thrive and reach new heights.

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